Turn Your Fear to Determination

My heart started pounding and I felt a rush of blood pulse through my body. In a blink of an eye my breathing became difficult, my stomach hollowed, and my thoughts turned into rapid fireworks. I was consumed by a mix of fear, anger, anxiety, and disappointment.

Harnessing your fear

In my personal experience of emotional reactivity, I can clearly identify when the internal state of my body is jolted to change. Many young athletes will express the same awareness, however, they are not quite sure what to do about it. In the following blog, I aim to summarize my mental coaching method by outlining what you need to know about the mind/body connection and what you need to do to harness your internal state, fight your fear, and win – no matter what you face in the environment.

The fight or flight response

​The body is equipped with a complex system to protect you from perceived threats in the environment. These threats can be real (getting hit by a ball flying towards your face) or interpreted (questioning yourself after a coach screams at you). In either instance, the body will undergo a physiological change, called the fight or flight response – or stress response. It’s hard to breathe, hard to focus, muscles become too tense, and it seems like there is nothing you can do. Unfortunately, this ‘protective’ response can become detrimental to your performance if you don’t manage it effectively.

So what’s the threat?

Mistakes or being yelled at are the two most common triggers for the stress response. At a deeper level, these triggers are relaying a message to your brain that you are not good enough or that you are not capable of achieving your goals and dreams. For those who have a strong identification with being an athlete, it is common for you to view each and every mistake or criticism as a threat.

Knowing the root of the threat can help you in two ways: 1) it can minimize the intensity and duration of the response in the future, and 2) you can work through the stress response and effectively harness the energy as you continue to perform. You must learn that, although the response is automatic and can’t be stopped in the moment, through a combination of deep breathing training and counseling with a sport psychologist, an athlete can train their body and mind to stay calm and overcome fears or doubts.

How to fight your fears

In addition to mental skills training and deep breathing outside of the competitive environment, there are several steps to help an athlete fight their fear (stress response) and win.

Fight Your Fear and Win

1. Be aware of a physiological response when it happens.

Start listening to your body for cues about what is going on in the environment and how it is causing you to feel and react internally.

My heart is pounding, I feel tingly inside, and my mind is racing with thoughts. 

2. Determine what the threat is.

Determine what has triggered the stress response and what are you perceiving to be a threat.

My coach just yelled at me and it triggered my fear that I am not good enough to be on this team.   

3. Label the emotion(s).

Most athletes are vague in their emotional labeling and try to ignore rather than accept them. It is important to be specific with emotional identification because it will help you gain a better understanding of how your beliefs (automatic thoughts/fears) associate with a particular mix of emotional responses.

Now I feel disappointed, frustrated, embarrassed, and anxious.

4. Use breathing techniques (if possible) to calm down.

Since the physiological response impacts your heart rate and oxygen flow, the absolute best tool you have is to control your breathing. However, certain sports are high-paced and dynamic, which means that it may not be possible to use deep breathing techniques in the moment. By using audio guidance at home, the body will learn to effectively recognize the difference between an aroused and calm state, which makes it easier to activate a calming response in the moment. Then, whenever possible, take 1-3 deep breaths if you feel a heightened state of fear or stress and need to calm down.

Just breath. Calm yourself. 

5. Accept the threat and the emotions.

Accepting the threat may mean admitting to something that you are desperately trying to avoid. However, you need to know that avoidance can actually exacerbate the stress response and cause it to endure over time. There is no sport environment void of strong emotional experiences – they are replete with them. Athletes must learn to embrace strong unwanted emotion in the moment, knowing that the sooner they can feel it, the sooner it will fade away. We are not defined by our emotional states, we just feel them momentarily.

I made a mistake and the coach is not happy about it. It’s okay to feel disappointed, frustrated, embarrassed, and anxious. It doesn’t mean that I am a disappointment or not good enough. I have to feel this in order to move past it.  

6. Use self-talk or imagery to fight your fear and use it as fuel to feel determined, confident, and/or aggressive.

It is not uncommon to describe the internal state of excitement as being quite similar to that of nervousness – so then, what is the difference? Your core beliefs. With the help of a sport psychologist, you can learn to challenge fears and doubts by establishing effective self-talk statements or images. Then, you can use these statements and images in the moment to re-focus and harness the energy produced by a stress response. As a result of your new beliefs, the body will respond with feelings like determination, confidence, aggressiveness, etc.

Stay focused on the game and the next play (determination). I trust that I can help my team win (confidence).    

The value in understanding your body

As you can see there is substantial value in understanding the physiology of your body and how it connects with your core beliefs and emotional reactions (psychology). In sport, your body is your most essential instrument to perform. So when a stress response is triggered it is imperative that you manage it effectively and maximize your body’s potential – in this way you can fight your fear and win.

Want to learn more about helping your players fight their fears and overcome their stress responses? Check out my new online course, Developing Confident Goal Scorers!

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Amanda Ferranti is a Princeton women’s soccer alumna, former semi-pro player, licensed soccer coach, and certified mental performance coach, with 10,000+ hours training kids.

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